Have you had it happen to you? You Love with all you have, and it is revised to the point you don’t even recognize yourself in the narrative? When they repaint your Love, you are left defending a fiction. After all, the only reality is the one you know in your own mind.

If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear it, is there sound? If memory is altered to heal a wound or grind an ax, is it still a memory? I feel safe saying it’s happened to all of us. A story comes back around, and like a bad game of telephone, it bears no resemblance to your version. Your heart and your efforts are painted in black to make the story believable. Consequently, if they repaint your Love, the options are limited.

You cannot take the brush from their hands or change what they see as the truth. Often you cannot convince anyone else of the images and sounds that make up your experience. But, you have one solid option yawning before you. Know your own mind.

Give yourself time to calm the fear of what people will think. Furthermore, to endure the sting of the lack of grace and consideration from the heart of the one you Love or Loved. Not every heart can Love others and themselves well. Not every heart has enough room for failures and brokenness. For this reason, if you can’t own your mistakes, weaknesses, and ugly tendencies, you are not ready to deal with them in others. When they repaint your Love, you must look at what really is instead of what you wish it were.

Repainting Memories

According to Julia Shaw of Scientific American, up to 77% of her test subjects accepted fiction as realities using misinformation, repetition, and imagination. It is tempting to frame our past in ways that work for us. Suppose we are imperfect (a little, tiny IF). We can count on giving an empty canvas to others. With this in mind, they are free to repaint our Love in ways that work best for them. We need to see that it’s not just other people who fall prey to repainting reality to match the curtains. We do it too. That is not an excuse but instead a challenge. Keep a tight grip on truth, so you can recognize lies when they are handed to you on a platter.

From Love To Lies

When we take the time to separate wishes and hopes from realities, we are ready to conquer the revisions and restore the masterpiece of the truth. When they repaint your Love, you have the right to accept or reject the copy. Experts attribute art to small and consistent details. It’s not different in Love; people find our hearts revealed in our relationships.

Character sets a pattern, and honesty unravels the confusion. As a result, even if you don’t confront the source, you will speak to them with your response. You can offer as much or little correction as you like. After all, if someone is quick to believe the worst in you, are they really someone you should be wasting time to correct?

Let Them Repaint As They Will

When they repaint your Love to be something that isn’t Love at all, you are given the final say of what you are willing to hang on the wall of your mind. You may have Loved imperfectly or made some fatal missteps. In the end, humans can only recognize the truth, take responsibility, and restore as best we can. Try as we might, we cannot undo the past or change the way it lands on people.

We cannot force anyone to appreciate the artistry or see how the mess blends to be the best gift we have to give. Indeed, real Love in its truest hue. Never let anyone repaint your intentions or your heart. Don’t let them edit your hopes or discredit your honest regret. Keep painting, keep loving and let life speak for itself.

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